Hey blog, I’ve missed you! Writing updates & news.

Im going to be on BBC radio today talking all things Azealia Banks at 4pm. Producer reached out after reading my Huff Post piece. (Last link in the list)

I know I’m playing myself by not updating my PERSONAL blog but it has the lowest viewership between all my social media.

I’m going to fix that.

In the meantime these are the articles I’ve written from March- May of this year that have been published.

I am so grateful and this is just the beginning. 

I can see myself becoming a stronger writer without compromising my voice or views and I’m very happy about that.

http://www.forharriet.com/2015/11/black-friday-black-folk-and-black-guilt.html?m=1

On Jada, Janet, Sisterhood & Why it’s all ‘That Serious’

http://www.forharriet.com/2016/03/on-kehlani-shaming-of-black-women-and.html?m=1

http://m.huffpost.com/us/entry/next-person-who-calls-hair-unprofessional_b_9661216.html?

http://tajimag.com/10-reasons-i-will-never-get-tired-of-slave-stories/

Afrocentrism as elitism: The gift and curse of consciousness in the social media age

http://m.huffpost.com/us/entry/the-day-buzzfeed-died_b_9690844.html?1460640932=
http://m.huffpost.com/us/entry/azealia-banks-i-bid-you-adieu_b_9913980.html

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Hotep Bingo: Funny but not really-Afrocentrism as elitismĀ 

Some of yall gon’ be mad but ….
Loving yourself and your people is no excuse for becoming just as ignorant and brainwashed as those who oppress you or those you judge for not being ‘woke.’ We can debate the individual squares or we can look at the bigger picture. For a lot of us Afrocentrism has become just another form of elitism within the black community.  

  
 

Eff Raven Symone at this point, seriously. But let’s talk about these ‘ghetto names’

Sad state of affairs when a successful woman of color with a purposely misspelled name that contains a completely unnecessary accent mark is on TV rocking flaming red hair (which is certainly perceived as ‘ghetto’ on her by her peers whether or not she realizes it) is talking about how she wouldn’t hire someone with a ‘ghetto’ name and even references watermelon. 
A name is a name just like skin is skin and clothes are clothes. They only mean what we make them mean and we really need to consider how ‘black’ names became the marker for who not to hire and how that effects the lived realities of actual human beings looking to go to school and become part of the work force.
I’ve known Deannas, Starquannas and Jay, Tay AND Day Quans and I never treated them any differently than the Samantha’s, Eric’s or Adams as my schoolmates OR students. 
It saddens me that we internalize this foolishness, even naming our children specifically based on what will give them the ‘best chance’ on an application. 
We get to choose their names and we often stay far away from cultural names so they won’t be judged but please believe that won’t save them. I shudder to think of how many of us would choose a different skin tone or hair texture for our children if we could.
When Johari and Jayla are wildly successful in whatever it is they decide to do it is those cultural names (granted- I now realize ‘Jayla’ might be quite palatable to a Eurocentric ear) that will be announced when they receive their accolades and I wouldn’t have it any other way.
Jess and Jack have enough awards. 
And they’d be the same kids if they were Jamal and Jasmarie or Jay Quan and Janiqua.

A reminder for the supposedly conscious community about #BlackHair

  
I can love natural hair all I want, it doesn’t give me the right to judge my sister just for having a different texture. We are still fighting the same battles and part of the reason we are losing is because we refuse to focus on our similarities and instead spend too much time arguing about what makes us different and in our minds, better than one another. Our men, women and children have inherited this psyche and the cost to our families and communities is great. It’s time to start talking to each other and building together in spite of individual preferences. I don’t need to be just like you to value your life, health, safety and happiness. #StayWoke #Sisterhood #RealBlackLove #BlackHairMatters #TeamNatural #NaturalHair #TeamRelaxed #BlackGirlsRock #BlackGirlMagic #BlackPower #BlackUnity #locloveliveshere #loctalk post by @afrocenchick founder of @locloveliveshere @bestoflocsawards @youngpeopleofcolorinc pic found at @theloclife

Why we should value black Community over ‘traditional’ black familiesĀ 

  
Maybe its just my world view due to all the misogyny I’ve been experiencing at the hands of black men lately but I look at this and see a story where independent women are the source of the breakdown of the black family. Sorry, not buying it. 
We need to have more support for each and every man woman and child that makes up our community regardless of what separates us and focus on our common ground. Playing the blame game gets us absolutely nowhere. We must be accountable for ourselves and our people. 
Too often the supposedly conscious community finds ways to demonize black women. That is not enlightenment or progress. I love my skin folks even when they don’t agree with or understand me but I’ve seen this floating around and avoided it until now. 
Sidenote: absent fathers are a worldwide and (gasp!) CROSS CULTURAL EPIDEMIC. Somebody told you black fathers not raising their sons are to blame for community violence to distract you from that string of police murders and you took the bait. 
Now I’m not saying community violence is not an issue- I work just as hard to stop that as I do to stop systemic violence inflicted upon my people. I’m also not saying that families – two parent households in particular- aren’t important. 
But as a mother of two who had her first child at 19 and is now engaged to the man helping her raise not one but two beautiful babies, I have to say- shit don’t always work out like a god damn movie on the hallmark channel! 
It’s a lot more important and beneficial, to me, personally, to foster a ‘it takes a village to raise a child’ mentality than keep trying to jam ourselves into this American nuclear family two parents two kids and a dog mold. 
So many couples stay together ‘for the kids’ but look at the cost. Your kids grow up watching two people who are not in love try to tolerate each other and go out into the world of sex and relationships with a BULLSHIT blueprint of what black love can look like. 
Why? Cause you didn’t want to be the black man walking away from his family? Leave that girl and take care of them kids bruh. You didn’t want to be the dreaded independent black woman? Leave that man and make sure he can see them kids shawty. Go get your lives! All it takes to co parent a child is 2 adults who love them. They do not have to be married or even in a relationship. Just my $.02

Why disrespecting ‘ratchets’ is anti Black

  
This hits home for me in a major way. Having a great dialogue with a brotha on Facebook so I’m going to provide my commentary to him in this caption. He suggested that it’s important to differentiate because ‘we want our sons and daughters to differentiate between women who love themselves and give back to the world and those who don’t respect themselves or life’ 

here’s my response: The thing it’s important to remember Alain Davis is that the terms are applied so loosely that they lack accuracy and ultimately value. The minute you eat McDonald’s or know a fetty wap lyric you become a hood rat to some black men. 

If you didn’t know me as a person and you caught me on a particularly #carefreeblackgirl day I might very well be bumping ‘post to be’ and trying (and failing miserably) to do the nae nae. These small things create these huge and divisive categories and I can’t rock with that. 

In the case of our sisters who are truly not aware of their worth and ancestral greatness, the question we as a people have to ask ourselves is, ‘how does me calling this sister names change her situation?’ And it doesn’t. 

We forget that queens are queens even when they don’t exhibit ‘queen like’ behavior. That royalty shit is in our DNA. Perhaps if more of us respected one another that culture of love would permeate even the farthest gone mind. But we spend so much time throwing shade and trying to be a ‘different kind’ of black folk that the things that should bind us are trumped by these categorizations. 

It serves us to point out hArmful behavior. It doesn’t serve us to divide ourselves from one another or disrespect one another. A lot of nasty things come a black woman’s way once she’s deemed ‘ratchet’ and a ‘hoodrat.’ We don’t even have/use those terms for our men. Something else to think about. 

#locloveliveshere #blackhairmatters #stereotypes #namecalling #theblackcommunity #afrocenchick #ypoc #blacklove #blackpower #blackunity #blackwomen #blackmen #niggasbelike #bitchesbelike #queensbelike #kingsbelike #BUTWEALLROYALTY

Why I’m here for Ciara & Russell Wilson

  
You don’t have to marry the mother of your child to keep another man from doing the job given to you by biology. You simply have to be present and engaged in your child’s life.
I’m not gonna be out here telling folks with no business being in a relationship to make it last forever. That’s just silly. But two adults don’t have to be together to co-parent a child. They just have to be adults.
The fact so many people who have never met Ciara, Future OR Russell Wilson are so concerned about Ciara moving on is absurd.
How are your personal affairs going? Perhaps you shouldn’t be so emotionally invested in the familial drama of others. Especially when all the outrage stems from an apparent deadbeat’s ‘rights’ to a child and their hurt feelings over another man’s involvement.
What I’m seeing in the conversation surrounding this situation is a lot of claim being laid to women and children as things and not people. If the child is ‘yours’ and you care so much how did it become a situation where someone was able to replace you?
Conceiving a child does not make you a father. What you contribute after that child is born is the difference between being a sperm donor and a parent. Nothing is ‘yours’ once you discard it, regardless of paperwork or a last name. 
So all you brothas with hurt feelings probably need to give your own kids a call lol.

Mad love to Amandla Sternberg

EXTREMELY tired of celebrities, correspondents & other people with influence claiming cultural appropriation ‘isn’t a big deal,’ that they ‘didn’t understand the historical context’ until they received a huge backlash or that ‘we can work toward equality a different way’ than calling out cultural theft for popularity & profit. 
No, bitch.
I will be there every time black, brown, red & yellow culture is used for a photo op while the originators of the baby hair, head dresses, braid styles, bamboo earrings, & head wraps are murdered with impunity, displaced, disrespected and dehumanized on a daily basis across the globe. 
It’s all connected.
I find it hilarious though not at all surprising that someone like Justin Beiber came to the defense of Kylie Jenner when Amandla Sternberg tried to put her on to the difference between appreciation and appropriation and suggested she could do more for the black community since she’s so fond of its physical attributes and hair styles.
These conversations are important and should be encouraged, not dismissed and shut down. Especially not by people with the influence over these young folks to make them think twice about their actions. 
Keep shining Amandla. 

 

Social Media Hiatus

There’s a lot going on and there always will be, so taking the time for self care and improvement is essential. I have too much going on with my brands to forego social media in that regard but as for my personal blogging & updates- it’s time for a hiatus. 

You can catch me at the #YPOCFathersDayBrunch this Saturday June 20th at Zoma Ethiopian Restaurant from 12-3pm and at the #60sNaturalHairAffair Saturday July 25th at Mark Morris Dance Studio in Brooklyn from 2-8pm.

Other than that I will be enjoying my huge, awesome family & legion of friends, and focusing on doing the work instead of trying to compel others to care about the work. The work must get done regardless.

Here’s to positive vibes, choosing your battles, making a difference and enjoying life fully in every area that is important to you.

Here’s to owning your life.

Tajh ‘Afrocenchick’ Sutton

Mother -Model – Musician – Writer – Educator – Activist – Step & Dance Instructor – Entrepreneur  

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