assault at spring valley highlights the criminalization of black girls and our tendency to do nothing to help

The fact this child never leaves her seat and is attacked in such a manner is cause enough for concern at the very least and fucking outrage if you’ve been paying attention long enough to realize this is the NORM which is why everyone let it happen and the one student who spoke out was arrested. All this over a phone? And folks are saying she should have ‘just put it away and this all could have been avoided?’ When did not listening to your teachers become a crime punishable by violence and worthy of arrest? Stop rationalizing the violence black girls face and let’s keep our girls safe- especially from those meant to protect them- especially in school. It is an absolute TRAVESTY that we are not even at rest from anti Blackness in the house of God or institutions of education. #AssaultAtSpringValleyHigh #BlackLivesMatter #BlackWomenMatter #BlackGirlsMatter #SchoolToPrisonPipeline #DecriminalizeBlack #StopCallingTheCopsOnKids #ThatsNotNormal #ButItsEasyWhenYouDontSeeThemAsChildren #DefendBlackWomen #ALLBlackGirlsMatter


Oh I’m watching you Hilary, but I ain’t tryna see you whip

Hillary Clinton, the same woman who claims ‘well meaning’ White people are fearful of Black folks in hoodies, is not allowed to do the Nae Nae. Same kids doing that dance would make you fear for your life on a dark street corner.

Miss me.

Ellen Degeneres is the homie but I need every single democratic candidate who wants my vote- granted to me by the blood of my ancestors- to do better.I have yet to be impressed and I will not be distracted by publicity stunts when my peoples lives are on the line. The Republican Party is very clear and calculating with its campaigning. Zero shame in their game. They are about our death, displacement and demonization. That does not mean we should blindly follow the democrats to the gates of hell. Show me something real shawty.  

On Jada, Janet & ‘Worrying about the wrong things’

I sent out an official piece for publication so I won’t post that yet but here’s a more free form blurb related to the Oscars and the latest news regarding boycotting and responses to it.

There is no reason I can’t simultaneously build within the Black community AND hold the systems and institutions that continue to devalue and disenfranchise people of color accountable. 
I’m not ‘worried about the wrong things’ for thinking the Oscars should be more diverse. 

Representation matters. When my brother goes overseas and tiny Japanese women run away from him at night because he’s Black even though they’ve never previously encountered an ACTUAL black person I’m reminded that representation matters.
On the flip side when students from a prestigious and diverse educational institution publicize their experiences with racism and are trivialized and silenced I am reminded why we need our own shit.
So scuse me while I walk, chew gum, listen to music, nod my head, milly Rock, shop for joggers and contemplate world domination simultaneously.
One time for the folks who get that race is worth discussing in every context. I don’t need to not care about the oscars so I can care about police brutality. I don’t need to stop worrying about meek mill making a fool of himself so I can #sayhername and I don’t need to stop watching scandal and empire so I can a free up some time to volunteer at the women’s shelter. I do all that shit easily and care free as fuck so all your judgement is gonna do is cause me to flex in the form of multiple status updates.
Now shut the fuck up while I kill shit in multiple ways, please and thanks.

We must remember Natasha McKenna

Monday, February 8, 2016, marks the one year anniversary of Natasha McKenna’s death. In February of last year, Natasha called 911 during a mental health crisis. She had been diagnosed with schizophrenia at age 12. Instead of providing her with mental health support, officers brought Natasha to Fairfax County Jail on an outstanding warrant. After being held in jail for seven days, Natasha—who weighed 130 pounds and was 5’4’’ tall—was hooded, shackled, and repeatedly tasered by officers attempting to move her to a mental health facility. Within minutes of being tasered, she stopped breathing. She died in the hospital seven days later — one year ago today.
A disturbing video showing Natasha’s brutal treatment at the hands of law enforcement has been available to the public since September, 2015. Fairfax County Sheriff Stacy Kincaid reported that her office released the video to demonstrate the “professionalism” and “restraint” exhibited by the officers who removed Natasha from her cell and tasered her to the point of unconsciousness. At the same time they released the video, a chief prosecutor declared that no criminal charges would be filed against the officers responsible for Natasha’s death.
Despite this horrific video and the total lack of accountability in Natasha’s case, her story has been met with relative silence from mainstream media and social justice groups. On the one year anniversary of her death, it’s time to stand up for justice. It’s time to #SayHerName.

#NatashaMcKenna #BlackWomenMatter #BlackGirlsMatter #BlackLivesMatter #BlackHistory365 #BlackOut #AAPF

Chris Brown Keeps Proving He Hates Women & Women keep supporting him


Team Breezy can go somewhere at this point. He’s an awful person. Period. And he really REALLY hates women. God bless Royalty and God help the poor child’s future relationships because her daddy is the worst. The worst part of situations like this is the amount of people co-signing and feeling justified because he is saying these things and he is a household name. 30,000-50,000 likes and re tweets for some of his most negligent comments. The irony is that these Tweets about faking suicide are coming from a man who has probably caused suicidal thoughts in multiple women of color and had his OWN mental breakdowns on national television. But she ‘fronting for the gram so her comments don’t look so bad.’ I don’t even care how well he dances. I’m not separating the two. He ain’t shit and that’s why his balls never dropped. Pushing 30 still singing soprano. FOH. And if you know me well and you’ve known me for a long time you know this man was my first ever celebrity crush. I say with confidence and clarity that he is a piece of shit and that the fact he can do all he’s done and still 
1. Be taken seriously
2. Be signed
3. Be supported by millions 
Is more of a testament to sexism than all the slut shaming in the universe.
And yes I remember when they weren’t playing his music and selling his CDs for that year or two. 
But he just keeps being awful.
While getting richer.
And more famous.
And when you forgive one infraction he commits another.
All you celebrity worshipping groupies are part of the problem. No one who is never held accountable for their actions will EVER learn accountability.
#SmallBoysInGrownBodies #ChrisBrown #Kehlani #BlackMaleMisogyny #KyrieIrving #PartyNextDoor #SlutShaming #CyberBullying #FuckPatriarchy #MisogynyKills  #MentalHealthInTheBlackCommunity

Another Mommy Anecdote

So I just picked up my son from school. 
His teacher, who I think is incredible, just chewed him out in front of the entire class for playing during gym class. 
Now, she wasn’t there, but the gym teacher reported to her and she felt it necessary to report to me.
I appreciate being notified about my son’s behavior because I would have asked if she didn’t offer the information up anyway. I always ask. Teachers do a lot in a day and sometimes they’ll forget to mention things in the chaos of dismissal. But she made it a point to give me that information. Fine. What I DON’T like is that she did it very loudly in front of the entire class. 
I’m not a proponent of embarrassing kids. I do not think it is an effective tool for illiciting change in behavior. Naturally there have been times when I had to correct a child’s behavior in a classroom setting, but I’ve never had a private conversation about a specific child with their parent while the entire class looks on, and I take crying very seriously- so I would definitely lower my voice after that at the very least. 
Hari interjected to defend himself and clarify- as I taught him- (my friend threw something and I went to get it!) but the teacher wasn’t having it. When he began to cry she softened up by saying kids will be kids, but Hari has to follow directions- which I agree with. (The class was being instructed to line up when Hari and his friend ran and dived for whatever item his friend threw.) 
Because I know my child I know damn well he was not aimlessly rolling around on the floor with his friend for no reason. He went to pick something up. No problem. He got in trouble because it’s not what he was supposed to be doing at the moment. No problem. But the fact teachers often 
1. Overreact, and 
2. Back one another up with no proof or context
Can be very problematic.
I’m sure Johari got off line and raced his friend to pick up the bracelet he threw.
But by the time the story got to me Hari had been ‘flipping and rolling’ with another student .
No one flips and rolls on gym floors. That shit would hurt.
Hari was scared. As we walked home I assured him he was not in trouble with me. The public tongue lashing from a usually very loving teacher was enough for one day. I asked if his gym teacher had said anything to him after the incident. He said no. That bothered me. 
When my students are in trouble with me I make them fully aware of their transgression even if it is small and when I plan to get a parent involved I make that clear as well. That’s an important boundary not to cross without giving a child a heads up.
What if I was one of those parents who only ever believes the teacher and beats my kid for every little thing? 
What if he’s been doing really great behavior wise as of late and now I’m made to believe he’s out of control in gym class just because the teacher had a bad day and blew a small incident out of proportion?
I explained to Hari this is probably the case as his gym teacher loves him to pieces. All the teachers do. He’s the bomb diggity. He also talks excessively and can have trouble following directions. I acknowledge this and work with him at home to improve in the areas he could work on. 
What I won’t do is throw him under the bus unnecessarily or intentionally embarrass him/ get him in trouble. 
As his mother when I feel like I’ve overdone it I apologize. And I pushed him out. It’s important that adults whose life’s work it is to educate/ care for children never forget that kids have circumstances you know nothing about. Just like adults. Had I been another mother this situation might have turned out very differently for Johari. 
Also, we often punish a child multiple times for the same infraction. Teachers screams on them. Mom picks them up, gets the story and then screams on them. Then dad gets home from work and you tell him the story so they can get at the kid. Then you call grandma and let her get in on the action. Why? Once is enough.  
But I will say this. I’m so proud of my kid. THIS is the kind of shit he gets in trouble for lol. I’ve had students so off the rails I would purposely NOT call the parents sometimes because I felt like they needed a break from bad news about their child. 
So I’m thankful. Just making observations.


Preliminary thoughts on #KorrynGaines

You’ll never catch me demonizing an armed woman in her own home with her babies whose been a target of police harassment for months because she threatened the police. The house was surrounded. Her babies were inside. Where was she going? Who was she shooting? You got 3 days for a white man who knows you’ll give him the benefit of the doubt even after he OPENS FIRE ON THE POLICE but not 12 hours to diffuse the situation when a 2 and 5 year old are on the premises and you’re only on the scene to make an arrest because of some traffic violations and resisting arrest- which is probably the most ridiculous crime ever- and will probably befall several of our black asses before we meet our maker? I’m supposed to fault her for being strapped and wishing harm on the agents of the state who she probably watched get away with murder time and time again just like the rest of us? She was supposed to come out hands up and leave her babies with who? The police? I don’t know what happened but I know a lie, unnecessary use of force and a cover up when I see it. This is not a debate. You know exactly what you can do if there’s a problem ✌🏾️ #KorrynGaines #SayHerName #TheyShotHerTwoYearOldDaughterToo #LookHowYoungTheyStartErasingBlackWomensTrauma

A quick note on the supposed black girl magic fest that was #YeezySeason4

I wasn’t going to comment on the #YeezySeason4 casting call because I know who Kanye is at this point and his affinity for ‘mixed’ and mixed looking women is QUITE apparent. 
But if you really think the presence of black women at his showcase absolves him of his misogyny and the blatant anti Blackness prevalent in that casting, or the numerous instances where he has shown his ass you might want to think again. 
(We all know how the world perceives the term ‘mixed’ whether or not you personally are mixed and proud to be black so stop it.) 
“How do you word the idea that you want all variations of black?” West asked in an interview with Vogue addressing the casting backlash. “How do you word that exactly?” 
Oh I don’t know. How about ‘all ethnicities and complexions welcome?’
It would have been VERY easy to create an inviting model casting that didn’t single out black women as uninvited. 
He tried it.
I am not impressed, moved or convinced Mr. Kardashian gives a flying fuck about black women. 
Whole lotta dark girls in the grass bare foot while the majority of lighter girls walk the runway but that’s nooooone of my business.
And as always, the ‘fashion’ is basic AF.
But y’all will wear anything if Yeezy says it’s hot.
Still praying for him and acknowledging his musical talent. Still hype Teyana is part of the squad cause she’s deserved the publicity shes getting now for a LONG time. 
But don’t act like Yeezy got my back cause he got them brown skinned girls bare foot in the grass facing away from the camera.
#EndRant #Yeezy #YouAintGottaLieCraig #Colorism #AntiBlackness #Fashion 

A message to the masses on demanding self censorship of black social activists 

I find it hilarious that so many people find me ‘divisive.’ I’ll post about black solidarity, black male misogyny, cute white babies doing hilarious stuff, the dangers of criminalizing entire groups, rape culture, grammar nazism, fashion, media portrayals of black women, the newest Marvel movie, some shit from Buzzfeed, the cool bus driver who let me ride for free and my home made lunch all in the same day and some folks seem to sift through it for all the times they read the words #BlackLivesMatter 

Seems to me like some of you have some very personal issues that my clear and concise knowledge of self & history and dedication to a better, more self actualized community of culturally competent citizens of ALL races seems to bring to the surface.

But I’m here to tell you that whatever you’re going through when you read my posts is personal and you really might want to look into that because there has never been a time when I practiced or preached hate.

I fill a specific need in my community and I will not be deterred or have my ‘tone’ policed. I will not be continually asked whether or not I think a ‘different approach’ might be more ‘welcoming’ to people with a ‘genuine interest’ in social justice who get ‘turned off’ by my language. 

I will not practice the self censorship nor engage in the respectability politics that so many Black folks find necessary on a daily basis so they do not ‘come off’ as ‘this’ or ‘that’ type of black person.

If you have a question ask me. If you have commentary, bring it! I am open to dialogue when a genuine interest is clear and a mutual respect exists. But please don’t think that means I will be disrespected or spoken down to based on some preconceived notion you have that my world view is ‘one dimensional.’

History tells no lies and it is my source of information within the context of how people are treated and perceived differently based on the groups they belong to and I am dedicating my life to destroying stigma, empowering youth, families and communities and educating in a wholistic and socially conscious manner. 

That’s my goal folks. That’s why I speak, act and live this way. It’s very important that those of you who say you love me and want social change understand how telling me I should be a different person or suggesting I ‘move on from the past’ that effects the daily lives of millions across the globe is dismissive, trivializing, infuriating and traumatic. 

Read and re-read my posts if you’re going to begin a dialogue with me because more often than not I have provided context and a multi dimensional view of the situation at hand- thus my often lengthy posts. At the same time if you can see this you have Internet access and therefore must commit to doing some of the leg work in terms of getting information and understanding the context surrounding present day issues rooted in past trauma.

I really try to promote dialogue but if you come into the conversation looking to shut it down or prove me ‘wrong’ as opposed to having an honest moment with me and yourself and making it a situation where we can share perspectives (that are not inherently problematic I.e. ‘Being gay just isn’t natural’ ‘Muslims are the ones blowing everything up’ ‘the truth is the most crime happens in black communities’ ‘women could protect themselves from rape by not being out late or dressing provocatively’ etc) then I simply cannot entertain that, or you.
I’m putting this into the universe because I like things to be clear and I find myself being asked the same questions and having the same dialogues about how I identify and ‘come off.’ This is who I am and how I operate. 

I will not apologize for it.

No Filter Friday: Daniel Holtzclaw

Be warned.
It’s #NoFilterFriday
Let me just say that I am fucking disgusted by the fact that half the news segment I just watched about this cop rapist of black women with records was about his condition at the sentencing. 
You think I give a fuck about his tears? You think all those women he raped, sodomized and stalked weren’t crying? Fuck outta here. 
Give him all 236 suggested years and I don’t wanna see his mama crying on the news talmbout ‘that’s still her baby’ either.
Tamir didn’t get to be a baby. His mama was a heroine addict right? He shouldn’t have even been playing with a fake gun, right? And why was he alone in the park, right?
Mike was fresh outta high school but he was a big brute and a ‘man’ right? And he charged at an armed officer ‘like a demon’ right? 
Not even the boy on the way home with skittles got to retain his humanity or innocence. Instead of playing that footage of Trayvon begging for his life before being shot at point blank range they told you all about his supposed weed smoking and suspensions and how ‘tall’ he was and how he ‘was on the football team’ so you would know for sure this child was actually a hulking man savage who deserved death.
But you sit here for five minutes and tell me how a known serial rapist with a badge was crying and shaking?
Miss me.
And put that nigga UNDER the jail.
One of many reflections of #BlackGirlMagic , tired of being at the bottom of society’s barrel. 
#DanielHoltzclaw #BlackGirlsMatter