Chris Brown, Stop Sexualizing Your Daughter

In his latest stunt Captain of Team Breezy aka I ain’t saving none of these hoes even if I’m the one who endangered them has recently taken to social media to shame the mother of his child for- get this- taking a picture of their daughter at dance class.


Apparently Royalty’s black tutu and leg warmers- standard attire for any dance class- made her look like a ’16 year old.’ Except it didn’t. Royalty is two and therefore looks two. Always.
Could there have been some validity to his argument on the basis of Royalty’s pose perhaps? 
Um. No.
She is sitting on the floor of the dance studio with one knee up in her tutu and leotard. Cute as ever. Mean mug on, probably because she was just not feeling dance that day. If you have children you know how that goes. Sometimes those mean mug pics are the best ones! (Hashtag she’s so mad. Hashtag I don’t care. Hashtag I paid $500 for these classes and she gon take hashtag EVERY hashtag LAST hashtag ONE.)
I say all this to point out that neither baby girl nor her mother have done anything wrong here. But leave it to everyone’s favorite chill deficient ‘bad boy’ and master of prepubescent vocals to find a way to not only sexualize a young black girl but also vilify another woman of color in the process. 
You’ll recall his Twitter attack of Kehlani a couple months back when the entire world thought she was a filthy whore because Party Next Door has no behavior and captioned a photo of them back together very questionably in an effort to establish his conquest since she had most recently been dating Kyrie Irving.
Even when Irving (after what felt like ages) cleared up cheating rumors (she did not cheat. I’ll say it again for you niggas with the #FuckSlutsLikeKehlani shirts in the back. SHE. DID. NOT. CHEAT.) and wished her well the damage was done and an unapologetic Breezy was on to the next unsolicited and misogynistic comment. 
This is the same man who uses iconic black women as punching bags and cheats on long time pretty brown girlfriends while singing about disloyal hoes. Why wouldn’t he take the opportunity to come for his Latina baby mama? She was good enough to fuck and impregnate but don’t let her dress the kids! She’s incapable! Got the baby out here looking loose!
Is that just Breezy’s own sexualization of light skinned women of color manifesting in his questionable parenting? He clearly has a type. Royalty will grow up to look like that type. And he is already treating her how the rest of the world will when she is grown because he has yet to grow up himself. 

Rather than express his opinion to his co parent privately he took to social media to galvanize all the fuck boys who begin sexualizing black girls in their toddler years. The patriarchy loves an audience. His perception of the woman he chose to have a child with as incompetent, the two year old’s outfit as ‘grown’ and his treatment of women in general screams misogynoir. 
I have been appalled with the things I see online since I started using social media but the conversations around women’s clothing, respectability and when a child is ‘old enough’ to be considered a sexual being are particularly troubling. 
The objectification of women based on what people think their intentions are with their attire (because apparently men are mind readers and so are the women who support the patriarchy) is running RAMPANT. 
After Muva Erykah gave these fuckboys the cosign to look at young girls on the basis of it being ‘natural’ the God damn flood gates opened for every creep uncle, red black and green flag waving acquaintance and inappropriate friend of your mother’s to look at you inappropriately on the basis of anatomy and nature.
Chris Brown, Miss Badu, and a host of folks in the Twitterverse would do well to recognize that children are still children no matter how ‘grown’ you perceive them to be. What is robbing our children of their innocence isn’t their clothing or their hair or their interests or mass media or make up. 
It’s not hard to censor what your child is exposed to in your home and in the care of your loved ones. It’s not hard to set boundaries that allow for freedom of expression and establish trust as a child gets older and wants to present themselves in ways you may not understand. It’s not hard to contextualize pop culture so that even if your child is exposed to it and enjoys it, it’s not dictating their behavior and attitudes. 
Everything we think makes our kids ‘grown’ can be addressed and dealt with fairly easily if we are consistent, fair, PRESENT, WOKE parents. What’s sexualizing our kids is US. 
Nothing can destroy a child’s innocence the way an adult who won’t let them be a child can. The sexualization of our kids, boys and girls alike, is at the root of so many of the issues our community. 

Everything from street harassment to teen pregnancy can be traced back to boys being taught at a young age that being a man means attracting girls and conquering their bodies and girls being taught not to be sluts by their fathers and not to be prudes by their friends while their mothers avoid the conversation altogether to avoid having to deal with dad later.
We as a community need to address the common psyche that perceives something like a two year old in a tutu as ‘inappropriate’ and seeks to blame black women for our perceived communal shortcomings.
But that’s an entirely different post.
Stop sexualizing black children.
Other people’s and your own.


Hey blog, I’ve missed you! Writing updates & news.

Im going to be on BBC radio today talking all things Azealia Banks at 4pm. Producer reached out after reading my Huff Post piece. (Last link in the list)

I know I’m playing myself by not updating my PERSONAL blog but it has the lowest viewership between all my social media.

I’m going to fix that.

In the meantime these are the articles I’ve written from March- May of this year that have been published.

I am so grateful and this is just the beginning. 

I can see myself becoming a stronger writer without compromising my voice or views and I’m very happy about that.

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